Justin and Amber

I can see why people do not recommend long engagements…

Not that a year is long… It’s not on the grand scale of things.

But I believe Joel said it once, at church:

• Long time dating
• Short Engagement
• Long Marriage

Being engaged is such a weird state in a relationship. It really is no different than dating, except for two very key things.

One: your anticipating being married. This anticipation can be both good and bad for a relationship. It causes you to think about what life will be like for the next 70 years. It causes you to think about how great it would be if you were married right now. I like to think of it like Christmas presents. Once you know Christmas is coming, you can’t wait for the gifts… You keep thinking about what you might get, and it continues to build. Eventually though, if Christmas gets delayed long enough, you lose some of that anticipation and joy. You might also get frustrated at whoever is with-holding the gift from you (I know always did when they made us wait until after dinner to open gifts when it would have been just as easy to open them before dinner).

Two: your relationship becomes very much about the wedding day. Every question is related to planning and preparing for married life. Personally,  I think having a short engagement would do wonders for many men’s sanity… Simply cramming all the wedding plans into like a 3 week window would be so much easier. You wouldn’t have to worry about who you forgot to invite, or whether or not everyone would come… It would be to short notice for you to even be able to care.

In any case, I can’t wait to be married… I’m counting down the hours as they say.

Justin and I have spent many moments debating where our honeymoon will be, how long it will last, and what we will do.  We have considered places out of the country, a cruise, or DisneyWorld.  Leaving the country is something Justin isn’t willing to do because he is afraid that they will not let him back in the USA.  As silly as that sounds, we decided against leaving the country.

I did not want to go to Disney because I am very much against theme parks and have never enjoyed them.  Nevertheless, I have been convinced to go to home of the great mouse, Mickey.

While using Walt DisneyWorld’s wonderful website to create our trip, Justin and I discovered an incredible package that will give us many upgrades to our trip.  Since I have never been to Disney Justin will have to explain more of the perks.  The one that I am most excited about is the premium seating for fireworks and a special cruise to watch one of the fireworks shows.  I love fireworks!

We are going to be staying there for probably 13 days.  I want to go to SeaWorld sometime while we are there also.  Hopefully we will also get a day just for us!  We plan to stay at the Grand Floridian, which has the beach that I wanted!

Our honeymoon is going to be wonderful.  I am really excited.  Now we just have to book the trip!